I have been listening to Eckhart Tolle lately. He talks about not identifying yourself with the illness or the body. Even a simple change in how it is said can bring about a difference in how you might feel about it. It is not “my” illness or “my” body, but “the” illness and “the” body.
“It is not just people with good or near-perfect bodies who are likely to equate it with who they are. You can just as easily identify with a “problematic body” and the body’s imperfection, illness or disability into your identity. You may then think and speak of yourself as a “sufferer” of this or that chronic illness or disability. You receive a great deal of attention from doctors and others who constantly confirm to you your conceptual identity as a sufferer or a patient. You then unconsciously cling to the illness because is has become the most important part of who you perceive yourself to be. It has become another thought form with which the ego can identify. Once the ego has found an identity, it does not want to let go. Amazingly but not infrequently, the ego in search of a stronger identity can and does create illness in order to strengthen itself through them.”
– Eckhart Tolle, ‘A New Earth’
I wanted to share this with you all because it created a shift in me.